Kids on the phones.
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In 2007, the iPhone was first announced. Since then, life has not been the same for modern humans, and life has never been more difficult for parents of children who reach the age they want.
I have yet to meet a parent who has had zero blows on the road to technological independence for their child. When a teenager says that his or her friends have cell phones, the request begins and does not end until the parents are satisfied. Even a well-behaved child with a lot of conditions that will surround, encourage, and manipulate him. Then come the fights and the complaints of the parents: “I should never have given up.”
Every parent I know with a teenager on the phone has said this phrase at least once. If you are this, you are not alone!
Children and phones
I’m tempted to use smartphones and the Internet with each other, in fact, at this point in our technological revolution, because they’re pretty much the same. The child does not use the phone to make calls. They use it to interact in a variety of online ways. Through video chat rooms (yes, they still exist), through social media, through different video sites, and the list goes on.
The parental struggle begins when you need to consider how the hell you will put limits on a child, literally, when they have the world in their pockets. Here are some factors to consider when you have a child with access to technology and how this may affect them. This does not mean that your child should be taken to a desert camp and disconnected from the world.
This is just to be informed as a parent, to be attentive to your children’s habits and moods as they walk around the world we all live in today.
Influence on humor
At the risk of what seems like a special after-school experience, it’s important to discuss why it’s important to control children and technology.
There are common personal safety risks, but there are other more accessible and slippery risks that children are not prepared for. On the one hand, children suffer tremendously from what they see and hear, and there is no end to the kind of online content that promotes dangerous, dangerous, or start-up ideas in a young child’s head.
If you have a child who is prone to depression or anxiety, you are more likely to search for content related to these moods on the web. This is not because they want to make things worse. In fact, they are trying not to feel so alone. The danger is that at this young age they will not be able to develop what is true and dangerous. A video that they may feel “receiving” can lead to new and more intense feelings of depression that would not develop in isolation.
This is often talked about but it is worth mentioning. Girls, especially in adolescence, will be self-critical about their body and their social status. The constant flow of highly filtered celebrities and their peers in their pockets can lead to the conclusion that others are missing out on where they are successful, and can break the child’s fragile sense of self-esteem.
This is not specific to children, but to all of us. The internet, social media, and smartphones offer us a highly addictive substance called instant enjoyment. We can literally find out anytime we want, and we don’t have to wait. We can order, buy or sell anything we want almost easily.
In the space of five minutes, I can book a hotel in Bali, buy my food (I have to take it home), discuss a recent breakup with a friend, and search for a medical website to see what this new weird pike might be. . Do I have to do a lot of things at once? No! Is it helpful? No! Are we preparing ourselves to be constantly productive and against the expectation of anything, yes!
For adults, it is a bad habit to break. For children, it is a path that can significantly hinder their success in many areas of life that they have not yet mastered and will have to master before reaching independence.
What to do
So what do you already do as a parent who has given your child free control of their device? Again, you don’t have to completely disconnect your baby. Just start wondering how well you are doing. If necessary, start making small changes, but most importantly, make sure you are in control of what you are doing.
Kids will hate it, but you have to know it. After all, if they are minors, they are in your care, which means they are under your supervision, even online.
Start setting boundaries. There may not be a phone on the table. Maybe there is no phone in the car. Some applications may not be supported. You make the choice of your family and your child based on their level of responsibility and age, but you should consider and incorporate this.
Children need boundaries to become healthy adults. Technology is an important part of our world, so teaching good, safe habits with technology is an important area for parents to pay attention to.
If you’re feeling adventurous, you can try to set an example by controlling your habits, but like everyone else, have fun with yourself and your family as you try to build better days and better ways.