Take care of your mental health, especially with pulmonary hypertension

As the moderator of the Pulmonary Hypertension News Forums, I’ve been pushing and participating in a lot of hard topics over the last three years. During this time, I have noticed that a topic comes up frequently and always leads to great responses.

Mental health and well-being encourage a conversation in which pulmonary hypertension (HP) patients and their caregivers often feel more comfortable than with someone outside the PH community.

Why is that? Perhaps our perceptions of society’s expectations lead to anxiety, stress, and depression. Unconsciously when we begin to see these external expectations as law as we try to deal with a serious illness, it is easy to be overwhelmed.

An unmade bed, a skipped shower, a meal to take home instead of cooking, or some other unfinished little thing can make a bad day physically even emotionally difficult.

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My son was diagnosed with PH at the age of 8 and received a heart and lung transplant six years later. As a caregiver, I relate to feeling pressured to do more than I can handle one day.

Some questions I sometimes ask myself to get rid of anxiety: Who am I trying to live up to? Mine or someone else’s? Who will notice my lack of achievement more than me? Why can’t I do it a little now and a little later? Who says I have to do things a certain way?

I recently read something that makes my questions feel validated.

Social media blogger Kate Scott’s 2020 post went viral on Quora, a question-and-answer website, when she answered a question.

The question was, “Did a therapist ever tell you something unexpected?” Kate’s response was, “Set the dishwasher down twice.”

He explained that in one session his therapist asked him what he was struggling with. Kate was embarrassed because she had nothing to say but deep truth. “Honestly? Platerak. It’s silly, I know, but the more I look at it the more I CAN’T do it, because I’ll have to clean it before I put it in the dishwasher, because the dishwasher does it badly, and I can’t stand it. wash the dishes. ‘

Her therapist hoped she would be judged for that too, but instead she nodded in understanding and calmly suggested, “Put the dishwasher on twice.”

He pointed out that there is no rule that a dishwasher cannot be used more than once.

He returned home and stopped following arbitrary rules, which ironically helped him get things back on track.

He only washed the dishes when he was in a healthier place and put them back in the dishwasher properly, thus eliminating the need for a second walk.

The chain effect is powerful. “But living at a time when it was a struggle instead of a blessing, I learned a tremendously important lesson: There are no rules. Put the dishwasher in twice. “

I highly recommend reading Kate’s full post. Worth reading! Then ask yourself, “What arbitrary rules can I break to make hard days less stifling?”

I listen to this advice because I have to deal with some of the big tasks that I have postponed because I believe that they need to be done quickly. Remembering that I can achieve great things in small steps has helped me to make the most of my hitherto untouched task.

That being said, I hope that PH patients will consider their physical challenges and accept that there is no rule that does not allow them to rest in peace. Especially in your case, it is often necessary, and you are the only one who needs to be convinced. If someone tells you otherwise, suggest that they follow and follow your rules and leave it up to you.

Note: Pulmonary Hypertension News strictly a news and information website about the disease. He has no medical advice, no diagnosis or treatment. This content is not intended for advice, diagnosis or diagnosis by medical professionals treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified healthcare provider about any medical questions you may have. Never ignore professional medical advice or delay looking for something you read on this website. The opinions expressed in this column are not the same Pulmonary Hypertension News or its main company, BioNews, and aims to spark a debate on issues related to pulmonary hypertension.

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